Fear of Kitchens? Mageirocophobics, Help is here.

Have a fear of cooking? There’s a word for that: Mageirocophobia. In the world of psychology, the cure is immersion therapy. I know, it can be scary, but we are here to help. We’re not going to throw you in the deep end. There is “nothing to fear but fear itself.” And, in case you forget that, we will “speak softly, but carry a big stick.” Through relaxation and observation, you will feel at home in the kitchen.

The kitchen has, traditionally, been the center of the house. It is known for its warmth, as well as, its inviting atmosphere. We should embrace the past and celebrate the kitchen as the meeting place of the hearth. In the 80’s you’d always find me in the kitchen at parties. In the Canadian Maritimes and Celtic lands abroad, people celebrate ceilidhs: a musical gathering where one person picks up an instrument, and, people join in, until it grows into a celebration of friends, family, and togetherness.

With all that revelry and happiness, how can anyone be afraid of the kitchen? We all need to eat and share. There is no reason you can’t make food for yourself, your family, and friends. Here are some relaxation techniques to dispel your anxiety.

Breathe:

Sit in a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Take not of your surroundings and where your body is in relation to the world: your feet on the ground your bottom on the chair, your back against the chair or just upright.

Take a deep slow breath. Breathe in through your nose. Pay attention to the sensation. Feel the cool air coming into your nostrils. Feel it fill your chest and your stomach rise.

Exhale: slowly release the air through your mouth. Feel the warmth of the air rising from your lungs and exiting. Contrast the coolness of the air coming in with the heat exiting.

Focus on the breath going in and out. Repeat this breathing for about 5 minutes, paying attention to all the sensations you feel: Your chest filling, stomach rising, shoulders relaxing. Let the anxiety drain from your whole body. Allow your thoughts to pass as they will, acknowledge them, but don’t engage. Just know they are there.

Relax:

Now, turn your thoughts to comforting things: Hearth baked bread, the aroma of marinara sauce cooking: tomato, garlic, basil wafting through the air, and a calming cup of chamomile tea. Allow yourself to savor the possibilities.

In this relaxed state, it’s easy to see that there is no danger. School children can cook. You are smarter than a 4th grader, right? Bring your phone or tablet with you. We are right here. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out. The kitchen and hearth represent warmth and comfort. Shed your discomfort and relax. Leave Mageirocophobia at the door.

Observe:

Pay attention. If a hot pan or a sharp knife make you hesitant, give them your respect, not your fear. Acknowledge the reality, then take control. These are inanimate objects. You are the one in motion. You have the power and ability to control every motion. Observe what you are working with and every motion on the way. By taking things one step at a time, you will be the master. Let the tools serve you. If you feel unsure at any point, don’t be afraid to ask for help. And don’t be afraid of the kitchen. Mageirocophobia be damned.